No Sex in Marriage? How to Restart Your Married Sex Life
Getting no sex in marriage may be a stereotypical joke people fling around but statistics show that those that are married actually do make love more often. Other statistics however do show that there is a growing anomaly within that of couples who have sex less than once a month and who have been classed as sexless couples. If you have hit this point in a marriage you are probably well accustomed to disappointment, frustration and possibly even anger and betrayal since this was suppose to be your lover for life!
Do not worry though; it is possible to restart the flames of passion in your marriage and build a better and more regular sex life. This will take some time and effort but the end result is the love and intimacy that you would expect in a happy and robust marriage.
First you must take action on the things that you can change yourself. The two most important things are:
Your attitude towards your partner
While it is very easy to be frustrated and build a list of resentments a mile long if you show this in your actions and communication you will further drive a wedge between you and your loved one. Remember this is NOT your fault but it does not mean that it is entirely your partners fault either for your sexless marriage. The situation most likely is complex and can be solved but you must have an attitude that is free of blame, free of resentment and always calm and willing to listen.
You can change how you react and this is important because you cannot force your partner to change. Having the right attitude will however make it very easy for your partner to find their lost libido again with your help and support.
Your home environment
This is possibly one of the leading causes of a sexless relationship. The everyday grind of domestic life is a libido killer because sex is linked to excitement and intimacy. When we become too comfortable with each other and our lives a spark does get lost and intimacy can turn to "So what's for dinner" and it ends there...
Again, since YOU can change the environment in which you live to some degree you can control that level of drudgery and shake it up a little. No need to do it too fast but gradual change can really help to shake the cage a little which can be exhilarating. Try changing the routine, changing the way you do things, swapping chores and taking leave of your duties every now and then to break the cycle.
Will this end no sex in marriage? Not immediately but if you do this you have opened the door a crack from which you can inject excitement and show the love and intimacy that you want back.
Source by Tony D Brown